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Best Gift for the Holidays

“The best we can hope for is that we act like the adults we hope our children grow to become.” ~ Hilary Moses SPS

Growing up, my mom had a paper taped to the cabinet that read, “Hey teenagers!  Tired of being hassled by your stupid parents? Move out, get a job, pay your own bills…while you still know everything.” Sounds about right. 

Anxiety has become an epidemic and many of our kids don’t want to grow up because, other than excitement over the fallacy of total independence once they hit 18, many of them struggle to see what the hype is about.

Every parent with a toddler knows that kids watch and imitate everything.  While it seems that, as teens, they stop paying attention to anything having to do with us, secretly they are still watching.  Heading into the holiday season means preparing for more time together at home, which also means more moments of being seen in our day-to-day lives.  

We coach many families about balancing privileges and responsibilities as they shape the tone of the home and it is important that kids, even teens, get the time to be kids.  We can put too much pressure on them to achieve, be responsible, live like mini adults, all the while wearing our own stress of adulthood like a self-flagellating cloak.

At Solutions Parenting Support, we coach many families to take the opportunity to consider questions such as:

  • “What is it that my child is seeing?” 
  • “Am I role modeling that being an adult is awesome?”
  • “How much time do I spend acting out my stress or espousing resentment over the “to do’s” and responsibilities?”   
  • “How would I need to show up to have my child watch me and say to themselves, ‘I want what she’s got.’” 

This holiday season, we encourage you to give the best gift that you can to yourself and to your family, which is to show up as the adult that you hope your children grow to become.

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