We are clear that it is not just the child that needs to be ready, but also the parents. Rather than having an answer that is the universal “this is what you should do”, understanding that each family is unique in their focus and values, we encourage you to find the right questions to ask yourselves to help determine your readiness.
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We need to practice self-care or we will become depleted. When we don’t tend to our own healing, we’ll find the behaviors in our children reflected in ourselves—if we are willing to look.
Heading into the holiday season means preparing for more time together at home, which also means more moments of "being seen" in our day-to-day lives.
If your teen is like 95% of the families we help, they are adamant about asserting their “independence”, usually defined by slammed doors and proclamations that they need to be free to do what they want, but for all practical purposes, they are still pretty dependent on parents in most areas of day-to-day living. Therefore, you still have some influence.
This is one of our favorite ways to help families reconnect and foster an environment that’s conducive to a variety of sometimes conflicting needs.
Consequences are effective parenting tools for these crucial child-rearing years. But coming up with the best consequences is only a small part of how to shape your family from the top down.
Natural or contrived, consequences are difficult for all parents. Whether it’s to identify what the consequence should be or implementing the consequence, it often can feel overwhelming and really just be an undesirable experience.
In our work supporting parents with struggling teens and young adults, we spend time making the distinction between what are the clinically significant behaviors and what are challenging, but age-appropriate behaviors.
Let’s face it, when you have a struggling teen or young adult, the holiday season is just not what it used to be. We see many trends, challenges and successes through our transitional work with families when it comes to thriving during the holiday season.
There are many concerns surrounding how the holiday will play out, how to manage emotions how to make decisions that will support the whole family system.
At Solutions Parenting Support, we teach our parents that letting go is a learned skill that helps parents get out of habitual emotional parenting and into wise-minded parenting, instead.
